Let’s admit it: most of us think that long distance love never really works. True, it is a pretty tough challenge for your relationship, and sometimes, it turns out to be the one thing that puts the final nail in the coffin. At the same time, it’s not as scary as they say it is, and if your love is strong, then there’s no break that can stop you from being a wonderful couple.
No, we’re not saying it’s going to be easy. In fact, it would be wise to do everything in your power so that the two of you are always together because the distance between you can be very uncomfortable. Yet, the following tips will help you see the bigger picture and find the necessary strength to keep on going.
You might think of them as a set of ground rules that any man/woman experiencing a distance love affair should take into consideration. And remember: nothing makes you miss your soul mate and appreciate the simplest things more than a time apart. Alright, are you ready to dive right in?
How To Make Distance Love Work? Start With The Basics
#1 – Don’t Get Obsessed With Your Partner
This is equally true before and after one of you leaves the city/country. Yes, it’s perfectly understandable that you want to spend as much time with him/her as possible before the parting, but in this case, less is more. Give the two of you some time to really miss each other and reminisce about the good things that you have in this relationship. That will make the reunion a lot more satisfying. Plus, don’t go crazy once you get back together – give it time to sink in.
#2 – Consider This To Be A Gift
Sometimes, a short break like that can seem like a disaster, but it really isn’t. In fact, you should use this as an opportunity to test your bond and to focus more on your own self. As the wise Chinese folks like to say, pure gold is not afraid of any fire. Besides, the distance between you could very well strengthen your love, not weaken it. What you should do is work hard during the time apart and surprise the other person with the positive changes.
#3 – Make Sure To Set Some Limits
If this is a long-term relationship, then the two of you already know about the limits and the thresholds. However, if you’ve been together for a relatively short period of time, don’t be shy to talk about some limits. Say, are the two of you exclusive, or maybe you are ready to have sex with other people? And what about the amount of money that you both are allowed to spend? Don’t take these questions lightly! Some couples tend to break up when one of the partners goes to a nightclub without telling about it.
How To Make Distance Love Work? Get Creative!
#4 – Use Cute Messages
Those “good morning”, “good night”, “I love you”, messages might sound corny, but they are very effective for feeling close to your partner on a distance love relationship. And, keep them updated on what’s going on in your life, especially if you’ve got kids running around. Thanks to the digital age, you can send them not only messages but also photos and videos (and don’t forget about real-time video chats).
#5 – Get Freaky With Your Loved One
Why not? Sex is a very important part of any relationship, and by using dirty texts and probably even photos, you’ll keep the fire lit. Sex is equally physical and emotional, which means you should never underestimate its power when it comes to this. If this is your first experience with a long-distance relationship, all this sexting might look a bit weird. But all your efforts will pay off soon!
#6 – Think About Doing Stuff Together
Yes, we did say in the beginning that you should keep yourself from being obsessed with your spouse/friend, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t play a game/solve a puzzle/watch something together if the moment is right. Online shopping is one of the best ways to make distance love work; same goes for walks around the city/park with a live camera on.
#7 – Visit Each Other While Apart
Long-distance relationships are always different. Sometimes, they last for several months; other times, it’s just a 1-week-thing. Regardless, you should always try to visit your loved one, even for a short period of time. Believe us: after all those sleepless nights and worrying, seeing him/her will be like fireworks. A simple hug, a kiss, and a 5-minute talk can make all the difference in the world.
#8 – Stay Positive
This can be hard, especially if you depend on the other person in your daily routine. But don’t get sad and/or frustrated: stay positive and think about all the good things that you have with that man/woman. Besides, once you get back together, everything will go back to how it used to be.
Alright, dear friends, that’s it for our tips on distance love. We hope these simple, yet effective steps will help you stay strong and keep the relationship going.
